Pat Blythe: A Letter to Katie….


Where to begin. It’s 10:40pm on a Tuesday night. I’ve just lit 10 candles, some sage incense and the music is drifting throughout the house. Sounds like 1960 something…. all I need is the Mateus bottle and a spliff…. The days are running into each other, colliding like the two drunken racoons cavorting in my backyard. (they eat the fermented grapes that have fallen off the vine) and I start to lose all track of time just trying to keep track.

Remember these?


It’s now Wednesday afternoon and I am extraordinarily late with my column. Trying to finish work and get ready to take a short trip south of the 49th parallel. What started out as a “journal” of the past 2-3 weeks activities has turned to something my heart feels is more important. I’ve been swirling a lot things around in that sponge we call a brain, but one in particular is top of mind… niece Katie, or as Chris used to call her K80. So, something a bit atypical but there’s always music….

Dear Katie:

Welcome to your new home. On Monday, October 3 you are coming to live with me, your Aunt Pat, and the two of us will begin a new life together, for at least six months, maybe longer. I’ve been trying to get the house ready for your arrival but the efforts have been, at best, futile. I’m out…..a lot….and for some reason the dust bunnies are not attracting my attention these days and are beginning to breed. At least the plants are watered….at least they’re still green anyway. My paperwork, badges, passes, tickets, lanyards, bits and pieces of my life, are scattered all over the place. My set of drums will soon replace the dining room table because I simply don’t use it anymore except to collect the aforementioned scraps of paper. Detritus, flotsam and jetsam, debris, rubble…whatever you want to call it….I have it, in spades. You and I Kates, we’ll get sorted. Lord knows my sisters have tried! ….and then we’ll blend your stuff with my stuff….. You will eventually become accustomed to my oddities…..

Stuff – George Carlin

I am so happy you will be sharing my life and my home with me. Albeit, there has been some trepidation on my part and I’m at the stage where “I’m not ready yet” but then I realize I’m never ready (like that first baby) so, for the most part, have learned to just go with the flow. We both will take some time getting use to each other but let us never dance around each other. Music is for dancing. We must be open and honest with each other. Communication is key…..and so is music. It’s a huge part of my life and annoying or not, I have it on all the time.


Katie opening her stocking – Christmas 2011

Dearest Katie, you have had some challenges throughout your 27 years on this planet. Life has not always been pleasant or treated you fairly and yet you have mustered through. Not every choice we make during our time here on earth is good for us or even for those around us. We take our chances, sometimes risking too much. We pay whatever the price is and come out the other side. Moving forward, one step at-a-time, and every so often we’ll have some fun and slide off the track together. So now you come to spend some time with me….the crazy lady. That wacky aunt who streaks her hair purple, is up till all hours of the night/morning clubbing and pubbing, who thinks cleaning house is remembering to put out the garbage once a week, who doesn’t give a rats ass what other people think anymore, who has met and friended the most incredible people over the past two years, who knows Bombay is not just a place to visit and that Sapphires are not just gems, who uses the “f” word like it is in fact the comma it should be, who thinks 60 is the new 20….that crazy aunt who loves you dearly in all your glorious red curl glory and who sees in you endless possibilities and all the love you have to offer.

Just A Little Bit – Julian Taylor Band (Julian talks about the song)

Just A Little Bit – Julian Taylor Band (full song and video)

My love, you are beautiful inside and out, intelligent, loving and warm. You are incredibly talented whether it’s with food or art….in any medium….although in your hands food can become art. I’m going to have to watch my weight while you’re here. Peter Kashur, I must introduce the two of you. Kates, you have so much to offer and teach all of us and I’m looking forward to learning and sharing my life with you.


One of Katie’s favourite places….the girl can cook!!!

As I sit here and listen to my tunes, I can see you in my mind’s eye and hope you will love it here. I welcome you with open arms and an open heart. My home is now your home and all the dust bunnies that come with it (maybe we could sell them like Pet Rocks).

Much love always,

Aunt Pat xoxoxo

I found this song and, well….I really like it….

Songs of Hope – (Mashup – K’naan, Matisyahu, Akon, Michael Jackson, and The Fugees)

….and this….had some fun with Sam Taylor and Maia in my kitchen with this one the other night. I love this version. You should hear Taylor belt this one out!

Mack the Knife – Kevin Spacey


Photos of Katie by Pat Blythe, A Girl With A Camera “The Picture Taker”


Pat’s column appears every Wednesday.

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dbawis-button7“Music and photography….my heart, my passions.” After an extended absence —  33 years as a consultant and design specialist in the telecommunications industry — Pat has turned her focus back to the music scene. Immersing herself in the local club circuit, attending the many diverse music festivals, listening to some great music, photographing and writing once again, she is eager to spread the word about this great Music City of ours…..Toronto. Together for 34 years, Pat little-red-headed-dancing-girlalso worked alongside her late husband Christopher Blythe, The PictureTaker©, who, beginning in the early 70s, photographed much of the local talent (think Goddo, Frank Soda and the Imps, BB Gabor, the first Police Picnic, Buzzsaw, Hellfield, Shooter, The Segarini Band….) as well as national and international acts. Pat is currently making her way through 40 years of Chris’s archives, 20 of which are a photographic history of the local GTA music scene beginning in 1974. It continues to be a work in progress. Oh…..and she LOVES to dance! 

3 Responses to “Pat Blythe: A Letter to Katie….”

  1. Great, heartfelt article!

  2. Pat, each article you write touches me deeply. We are so lucky you share your gifts and passions with us. Welcome to TO, Katie. Looking forward to a coffee and a chat sometime soon. XOR

  3. Beautifully said Pat.

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